Integrative Kink Coaching is suitable for individuals and couples, and can explore any specific kinky goals you may wish to work towards, such as enhancing your Dom/sub relationship or learning new skills, or it could be the first step in exploring and discovering your desires with someone to support you in understanding what to do with them.

Working with our kinks can be incredibly healing. When we start to explore our kinks and assess our attitudes, values and beliefs around our kinks, it can open up the door to our shadow self, allowing us to get curious about all of the parts of ourselves that may need a little love and attention. 

I am a big believer that connecting with our sexual self can improve all areas of our lives, and through the exploration of kink, we can look at many other aspects of our shadow self, including limiting beliefs, the inner child, confidence, shame, attachment, trauma, and much more to fully step into our most authentic selves. 

Reasons you may wish to invest in Integrative Kink Therapy & Coaching:

**Work on your D/s dynamic with a partner**

**Relationship issues, conflicts or mismatch of desire**

**Learning how to create, maintain and enjoy a fulfilling kinky lifestyle**

**Kinky dating support** 

**Learning about kink and discovering what you’re into** 

**Working through limiting beliefs, blockages or trauma that may be hindering your kink experiences**

**Learn a specific skill**

**Deepen your understanding of your sexual self** 

**Create more intimacy and connection in your relationships**

All sessions are held online on Zoom and are 60 minutes long for individual sessions and 90 minutes for couples sessions. 

Sub in the City  - 1 Hour Kink Coaching Session with Sarah

Integrative Kink Coaching is suitable for individuals and couples, and can explore any specific kinky goals you may wish to work towards, such as enhancing y...

1 Hour Kink Coaching Session with Sarah

# Dungeon Party: My Bloody Valentine

**Friday 20th February| 8pm–1am | Bournemouth**

Join Sarah and Master Carlos from Sub in the City for a monthly Dungeon Party in the Sub in the City Studio in Bournemouth.

We have a limited number of tickets for you to join our Dungeon Party where you can meet likeminded kinksters, socialise in our brand new Dungeon Studio, and explore some light kink play if you wish. Master Carlos will also be offering taster impact play sessions and Sarah will be around offering guidance and support to anyone who may want it.

Dungeon furniture and toys are available for you to use and you are also welcome to bring your own toys.

**What is a Dungeon Party?**

This event is not a full sex party, therefore we do not allow sexual activities, however we do make this a safe space for kink play (think sensory/sensation play/role play dynamics etc).

**Who can attend?**

Anyone who is interested in socialising with the local kink community is welcome to attend. It is a safe space for newbies and seasoned kinksters alike.

**What to expect?**

You will be welcomed into the space from 8pm with last entry at 8.30pm, and you’ll receive a welcome glass of fizz / soft drink and a tour/briefing on arrival.

The event is BYOB with a bar service, so our House Subs will label your drinks and serve you whenever you need a refill - simply go to the bar and request your drink! A small amount of soft drinks will be provided and snacks!

Please familiarise yourself with the event rules prior to booking

**EVENT RULES**

**The venue must remain discreet and not be shared with anyone who is not attending the event.**

**No loitering or smoking outside in kinkwear/talking about kink or the event in front of the public.**

**Respect the space and ask one of our monitors or hosts if you need any support with the equipment.**

**This is a social event with a play element. Play does not mean sex - please respect these rules.**

**Play is not a given or expected - respect other people’s boundaries.**

**Consent is key.**

**Please abide by PRICK - Personal Responsibility in Consensual Kink**

**If you are deemed to be too intoxicated you will be asked to leave the event.**

**If you are deemed to be under the influence of any illegal substances you will be asked to leave the event.**

Consent is key, creepiness will not be tolerated. This is a safe space for newbies and seasoned kinksters alike to come together and mingle with the local community.

Spots are limited.

If you have any questions, please do not hesitate to contact me at sarah.subinthecity@gmail.com

Forget the commercial St Valentines fluff, as Sub in the City brings you a night of Erotic Horror with our kinky valentines bash with a twist - for the twisted, dark, demons inside of you to come out and play.

Whether you want to indulge in a decadent evening with your partner or come and drink the blood of your exes upon our heartbreak altar, join us in the dungeon for an evening of delights. 

We're combining St Valentine's with Cult Horror as you step into a night where sophistication meets playful curiosity. 

**THIS IS NOT A PLAY PARTY.**

**Dress Code:**\
Think classic valentines meets erotic horror. Red lingerie, velvets, fur, cocktail dresses, shirts and smart trousers. Kink/fetish wear is ALWAYS encouraged, and if you want to be totally on theme, think:

- Gothic Bride / Runaway Groom

- Final Girl / Slasher Muse

- Vampiric Aristocrat

- Possessed Lover

- Bloody Cupid

Cocktail attire with a playful twist—dress to impress and express yourself!

**Tickets:**\
Advance booking is essential, there are no tickets on the door and doors will close on the day to keep the event private.

**Doors open at 8pm and will close by 8.30. No entry after this time.**

Dungeon Party: My Bloody Valentine Friday 20th February | 8pm–1am | Bournemouth

Dungeon Party: My Bloody Valentine 

. Please provide your Fetlife/ WAXapp / Social media handle or link for vetting purposes

I have read the event rules and understand that failure to adhere to these rules will result in being asked to leave the event without refund.

Join Sarah and Master Carlos from Sub in the City for a monthly Dungeon Party in the Sub in the City Studio in Bournemouth.

We have a limited number of tickets for you to join our Dungeon Party where you can meet likeminded kinksters, socialise in our brand new Dungeon Studio, and explore some light kink play if you wish. Master Carlos will also be offering taster impact play sessions and Sarah will be around offering guidance and support to anyone who may want it.

Dungeon furniture and toys are available for you to use and you are also welcome to bring your own toys.

**What is a Dungeon Party?**

This event is not a full sex party, therefore we do not allow sexual activities, however we do make this a safe space for kink play (think sensory/sensation play/role play dynamics etc).

**Who can attend?** 

Anyone who is interested in socialising with the local kink community is welcome to attend. It is a safe space for newbies and seasoned kinksters alike.

**What to expect?**

You will be welcomed into the space from 7.30pm with last entry at 8pm, and you’ll receive a welcome glass of fizz / soft drink and a tour/briefing on arrival.

The event is BYOB with a bar service, so our House Subs will label your drinks and serve you whenever you need a refill - simply go to the bar and request your drink! A small amount of soft drinks will be provided and snacks!

Please familiarise yourself with the event rules prior to booking

**EVENT RULES**

**The venue must remain discreet and not be shared with anyone who is not attending the event.**

**No loitering or smoking outside in kinkwear/talking about kink or the event in front of the public.**

**Respect the space and ask one of our monitors or hosts if you need any support with the equipment.**

**This is a social event with a play element. Play does not mean sex - please respect these rules.**

**Play is not a given or expected - respect other people’s boundaries.**

**Consent is key.**

**Please abide by PRICK - Personal Responsibility in Consensual Kink**

**If you are deemed to be too intoxicated you will be asked to leave the event.**

**If you are deemed to be under the influence of any illegal substances you will be asked to leave the event.**

Consent is key, creepiness will not be tolerated. This is a safe space for newbies and seasoned kinksters alike to come together and mingle with the local community.

Spots are limited.

If you have any questions, please do not hesitate to contact me at sarah.subinthecity@gmail.com

Join Sarah and Master Carlos from Sub in the City for a monthly Dungeon Party in the Sub in the City Studio in Bournemouth.

Dungeon Party 

Please provide your Fetlife/ Social media handle or link for vetting purposes 

### **Erotic Impact Skills – Friday 12th December at 7.30pm** 

Immerse yourself in a decadent journey of sensuality and skill at Sub in the City’s exclusive Erotic Impact Play Workshop. Designed to awaken your deepest desires, this luxurious experience will guide you through the art of spanking for pleasure—and pain—with finesse and passion.

This event is perfect for curious kinksters seeking to elevate their dynamic, or for adventurous souls yearning to explore the exquisite interplay of pain and pleasure.

**Who Can Attend?**

This workshop is a partnered class – bring a friend, a lover, a play partner to have fun in this playful spanking workshop. Spanking can be a somatic experience that doesn’t *have* to be sexual. It can be fun, playful, erotic, platonic – whatever you *intend*  it to be. 

**What Awaits You**

Begin your evening with a glass of bubbly as you step into the Sub in the City BDSM Studio, where you can get accustomed to the Equipment, toys and tools, with an introduction to the evening’s activities from Integrative Kink Therapist, Sarah Butcher and Pro Dom, Master Carlos. 

**A Guided Demonstration**

Your experience starts with a live, sensual demonstration led by our resident Dom and sub duo, facilitated by renowned BDSM Coach & Kink Educator Sarah Butcher. With precision and artistry, they’ll showcase the techniques, positions, and tools needed to craft deeply erotic and exhilarating impact play scenes.

**Hands-On Exploration**

Under Sarah’s expert guidance, you’ll move step-by-step through a variety of techniques designed to refine your skills and heighten your confidence. Then, it’s your time to shine: roam the dungeon, explore its exquisite equipment and furniture, and sink fully into the tantalizing world of impact play, all while a sultry soundtrack sets the mood.

**Tailored Support**

Throughout your journey, our team of experts will be available to offer personalized guidance, ensuring you feel empowered, supported, and inspired.

**A Luxurious Wind-Down**

As the hands-on session concludes, the evening transitions into a social affair. Relax with a drink, savor the connections you’ve made, and engage in meaningful conversations with Sarah and the team. Reflect on your experiences, ask questions, or simply bask in the glow of your unforgettable spanking!

**What to Wear**

Dress to feel confident and comfortable. Whether you prefer lingerie or to remain fully clothed, the choice is yours—embrace whatever helps you step into your sensual power.

The evening will go as follows:

**Arrival from 7.30pm for welcome bubbly**

**8pm – Workshop & demo begins** 

**8.45pm – Practical skills session**

**9.45pm – Social and wind down time**

**Investment**

Duo ticket Earlybird – £70

Duo ticket standard – £90

**Step into the luxurious, sensual world of impact play. This isn’t just a workshop; it’s an experience of connection, exploration, and empowerment.**

**Spaces are extremely limited—reserve your spot now for an experience you’ll never forget.**

CENTRAL BOURNEMOUTH LOCATION – ADDRESS PROVIDED NO LATER THAN 1 WEEK BEFORE THE EVENT. 

Please note, due to the nature and limited spaces at this event, there are no refunds. 

**Any questions prior to booking please contact [sarah.subinthecity@gmail.com](mailto:sarah.subinthecity@gmail.com)**

Sub in the City  - Erotic Impact Play Workshop 

 Immerse yourself in a decadent journey of sensuality and skill at Sub in the City’s Erotic Impact Play Workshop

Erotic Impact Play Workshop 

A 90-minute personalised online coaching session for couples looking to dive deeper into their kinky desires

90 Minute Couples Kink Coaching Session with Sarah

Do you want to learn a new kinky skill, or get some support or guidance on how to take things to the next level? Then a private skills session is perfect for you.

Sessions are designed for individuals, couples or small groups, who wish to have personalised support and guidance on how to implement new practical skills into their kinky lifestyle, with Kinky Coach Sarah and Pro Dom, Master Carlos. This could include but is not limited to things such as:

- **Impact Play Skills**
- **Sensory Play Skills**
- **Temperature Play Skills**
- **Dominance & Submission**
- **Scene creation**
- **Creating your kinky lifestyle**
- **Rules & Rituals**
- **Discipline & Punishment**
- **Dirty talk**
- **Aftercare**
- **& more**

Sessions are tailored to your individual needs and desires. Please note these coaching sessions are educational and exploratory in nature and are not an adult sexual service.

All sessions are held in Bournemouth in the fully-equipped Sub in the City BDSM Studio space (Bournemouth, BH1). Full address provided upon booking.

Sub in the City  - Private workshop/coaching in Dungeon 

Do you want to learn a new kinky skill, or get some support or guidance on how to take things to the next level? Then a private skills session is perfect for...