Integrative Kink Coaching is suitable for individuals and couples, and can explore any specific kinky goals you may wish to work towards, such as enhancing your Dom/sub relationship or learning new skills, or it could be the first step in exploring and discovering your desires with someone to support you in understanding what to do with them. Working with our kinks can be incredibly healing. When we start to explore our kinks and assess our attitudes, values and beliefs around our kinks, it can open up the door to our shadow self, allowing us to get curious about all of the parts of ourselves that may need a little love and attention.  I am a big believer that connecting with our sexual self can improve all areas of our lives, and through the exploration of kink, we can look at many other aspects of our shadow self, including limiting beliefs, the inner child, confidence, shame, attachment, trauma, and much more to fully step into our most authentic selves.  Reasons you may wish to invest in Integrative Kink Therapy & Coaching: **Work on your D/s dynamic with a partner** **Relationship issues, conflicts or mismatch of desire** **Learning how to create, maintain and enjoy a fulfilling kinky lifestyle** **Kinky dating support**  **Learning about kink and discovering what you’re into**  **Working through limiting beliefs, blockages or trauma that may be hindering your kink experiences** **Learn a specific skill** **Deepen your understanding of your sexual self**  **Create more intimacy and connection in your relationships** All sessions are held online on Zoom in UK TIME, and are 60 minutes long for individual sessions and 90 minutes for couples sessions. 

Sub in the City  - 1 Hour Kink Coaching Session with Sarah

Integrative Kink Coaching is suitable for individuals and couples, and can explore any specific kinky goals you may wish to work towards, such as enhancing y...

1 Hour Kink Coaching Session with Sarah

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**Friday 10th April 2026 - Bournemouth, BH1**

**Discipline: The Power Behind the Dynamic**

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Discipline is the often-overlooked **“D” in BDSM**—yet it’s one of the most powerful tools for building trust, structure, and deeper connection within a power exchange dynamic. If you’re curious about how discipline can strengthen your dynamic, refine your leadership, or guide your submissive’s growth, this workshop will give you the knowledge and inspiration to do it with confidence.

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Join **Sarah** and **Master Carlos** for an engaging and thought-provoking session exploring the art, purpose, and practice of discipline within BDSM. Through discussion, practical guidance, and live demonstrations, you’ll gain insight into how structure, rules, and consequences can transform a dynamic from casual play into a meaningful power exchange. 

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**During the workshop we’ll explore:**

• What discipline and punishment really mean in a BDSM context  
• Understanding and building a power exchange dynamic  
• When, why, and how to discipline a submissive partner  
• Creating clear rules, boundaries, and meaningful consequences  
• The difference between **punishment** and **funishment**  
• Live demonstrations from Master Carlos and our house sub  
• The essential do’s and don’ts of discipline  
• The importance of aftercare and maintaining trust

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Whether you’re **single, exploring, or already in a dynamic**, this workshop is designed to give you practical tools, fresh inspiration, and the confidence to structure and deepen your power exchange experiences.

Come curious, leave empowered—and ready to take the discipline in your dynamic to the next level.

Sub in the City  - Discipline & Punishment: How to train your sub

Discipline & Punishment: How to train your sub

Join Sarah and Master Carlos from Sub in the City for a monthly Dungeon Party in the Sub in the City Studio in Bournemouth.

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This time we’re celebrating the month of Aries as it’s both Sarah and Master Carlos’s birthday! 

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**7.30pm- 12.30am**

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We have a limited number of tickets for you to join our Dungeon Party where you can meet likeminded kinksters, socialise in our brand new Dungeon Studio, and explore some light kink play if you wish. Master Carlos will also be offering taster impact play sessions and Sarah will be around offering guidance and support to anyone who may want it.

Dungeon furniture and toys are available for you to use and you are also welcome to bring your own toys.

**What is a Dungeon Party?**

This event is not a full sex party, therefore we do not allow sexual activities, however we do make this a safe space for kink play (think sensory/sensation play/role play dynamics etc).

**Who can attend?** 

Anyone who is interested in socialising with the local kink community is welcome to attend. It is a safe space for newbies and seasoned kinksters alike.

**What to expect?**

You will be welcomed into the space from 7.30pm with last entry at 8pm, and you’ll receive a welcome glass of fizz / soft drink and a tour/briefing on arrival.

The event is BYOB with a bar service, so our House Subs will label your drinks and serve you whenever you need a refill - simply go to the bar and request your drink! A small amount of soft drinks will be provided and snacks!

Please familiarise yourself with the event rules prior to booking

**EVENT RULES**

**The venue must remain discreet and not be shared with anyone who is not attending the event.**

**No loitering or smoking outside in kinkwear/talking about kink or the event in front of the public.**

**Respect the space and ask one of our monitors or hosts if you need any support with the equipment.**

**This is a social event with a play element. Play does not mean sex - please respect these rules.**

**Play is not a given or expected - respect other people’s boundaries.**

**Consent is key.**

**Please abide by PRICK - Personal Responsibility in Consensual Kink**

**If you are deemed to be too intoxicated you will be asked to leave the event.**

**If you are deemed to be under the influence of any illegal substances you will be asked to leave the event.**

Consent is key, creepiness will not be tolerated. This is a safe space for newbies and seasoned kinksters alike to come together and mingle with the local community.

Spots are limited.

If you have any questions, please do not hesitate to contact me at [sarah.subinthecity@gmail.com](mailto:sarah.subinthecity@gmail.com)

Sub in the City  - Aries Dungeon Party 

Join Sarah and Master Carlos from Sub in the City for a monthly Dungeon Party in the Sub in the City Studio in Bournemouth.

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This time we’re celebrat...

Aries Dungeon Party 

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I have read the event rules and understand that failure to adhere to these rules will result in being asked to leave the event without refund.

### **Erotic Impact Skills – Friday 12th December at 7.30pm** 

Immerse yourself in a decadent journey of sensuality and skill at Sub in the City’s exclusive Erotic Impact Play Workshop. Designed to awaken your deepest desires, this luxurious experience will guide you through the art of spanking for pleasure—and pain—with finesse and passion.

This event is perfect for curious kinksters seeking to elevate their dynamic, or for adventurous souls yearning to explore the exquisite interplay of pain and pleasure.

**Who Can Attend?**

This workshop is a partnered class – bring a friend, a lover, a play partner to have fun in this playful spanking workshop. Spanking can be a somatic experience that doesn’t *have* to be sexual. It can be fun, playful, erotic, platonic – whatever you *intend*  it to be. 

**What Awaits You**

Begin your evening with a glass of bubbly as you step into the Sub in the City BDSM Studio, where you can get accustomed to the Equipment, toys and tools, with an introduction to the evening’s activities from Integrative Kink Therapist, Sarah Butcher and Pro Dom, Master Carlos. 

**A Guided Demonstration**

Your experience starts with a live, sensual demonstration led by our resident Dom and sub duo, facilitated by renowned BDSM Coach & Kink Educator Sarah Butcher. With precision and artistry, they’ll showcase the techniques, positions, and tools needed to craft deeply erotic and exhilarating impact play scenes.

**Hands-On Exploration**

Under Sarah’s expert guidance, you’ll move step-by-step through a variety of techniques designed to refine your skills and heighten your confidence. Then, it’s your time to shine: roam the dungeon, explore its exquisite equipment and furniture, and sink fully into the tantalizing world of impact play, all while a sultry soundtrack sets the mood.

**Tailored Support**

Throughout your journey, our team of experts will be available to offer personalized guidance, ensuring you feel empowered, supported, and inspired.

**A Luxurious Wind-Down**

As the hands-on session concludes, the evening transitions into a social affair. Relax with a drink, savor the connections you’ve made, and engage in meaningful conversations with Sarah and the team. Reflect on your experiences, ask questions, or simply bask in the glow of your unforgettable spanking!

**What to Wear**

Dress to feel confident and comfortable. Whether you prefer lingerie or to remain fully clothed, the choice is yours—embrace whatever helps you step into your sensual power.

The evening will go as follows:

**Arrival from 7.30pm for welcome bubbly**

**8pm – Workshop & demo begins** 

**8.45pm – Practical skills session**

**9.45pm – Social and wind down time**

**Investment**

Duo ticket Earlybird – £70

Duo ticket standard – £90

**Step into the luxurious, sensual world of impact play. This isn’t just a workshop; it’s an experience of connection, exploration, and empowerment.**

**Spaces are extremely limited—reserve your spot now for an experience you’ll never forget.**

CENTRAL BOURNEMOUTH LOCATION – ADDRESS PROVIDED NO LATER THAN 1 WEEK BEFORE THE EVENT. 

Please note, due to the nature and limited spaces at this event, there are no refunds. 

**Any questions prior to booking please contact [sarah.subinthecity@gmail.com](mailto:sarah.subinthecity@gmail.com)**

Sub in the City  - Erotic Impact Play Workshop 

 Immerse yourself in a decadent journey of sensuality and skill at Sub in the City’s Erotic Impact Play Workshop

Erotic Impact Play Workshop 

**Sunday 10th May 3-5pm 2026 - Bournemouth, BH1**

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**Aftercare: A practice of Grounding After Intense Play**

High-intensity scenes can take us into altered space – physically, emotionally and psychologically. Whether you’re exploring D/s dynamics, impact, rope, primal play or other forms of kink, what happens after the scene matters just as much as what happens within it. 

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Aftercare isn’t just a cuddle or a glass of water. 

At its core, aftercare is a bridge. It’s an intentional practice that helps you return to a sense of groundedness and steadiness. It allows you to stay in the pleasure and connection a little longer, while gently re-entering the world.

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This workshop is designed for those new to kink, exploring power exchange, or curious about building safer, more grounded play. 

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Your facilitator is experienced kinkster and educator, Alice Nan!

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***Alice has been part of the kink community for many years, both in the UK & NYC. Their approach is rooted in lived experience, ongoing learning, and active participation in community spaces. They’re passionate about creating spaces where curiosity feels safe, connection is intentional and people are supported in engaging with kink in ways that feel authentic and sustainable for them.***

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***Alice shares ongoing reflections on kink on Instagram: @alicenan_***

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In this interactive workshop, we’ll explore:

- What aftercare really is an who it’s for (hint: everyone)
- What happens in the body during high-intensity scenes
- Why “drop” happens and how to recognize it
- Practical ways aftercare can look across different scenarios
- How to negotiate and agree aftercare before you play
- The difference between aftercare and trigger care

Through discussion, guided reflection and small group exercises, you’ll build confidence in identifying what aftercare looks like for you and how to communicate that clearly. 

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Aftercare is not an optional extra. It transforms intense experiences into opportunities for deeper connection and supports safer, more sustainable play. 

Sub in the City  - The Ritual of Aftercare

Learn how to create a practice of grounding after intense play

The Ritual of Aftercare

Sub in the City  - May Dungeon Party 

Join Sarah and Master Carlos for their monthly dungeon party at the Sub in the City Studio in Bournemouth

May Dungeon Party 

Please provide your social media/WAX/Fetlife profile for vetting purposes

Ever feel like you don’t have the time to properly get into your Dom/sub dynamic? Perhaps you keep talking about starting but never get around to it? Does it currently feel like it will always be a fantasy but never a reality?

  


How about an entire 2 days dedicated to building your ideal D/s Dynamic? Join us at the Sub in the City Studio for this 2-day intensive as we explore experiential workshops dedicated to supporting you in building a power exchange that really works for you. 

  


This weekend will be jam packed full of educational and experiential classes and workshops for you to really step into your Dom/subspace and co-create something unique to you. 

  


This weekend is for couples or Dom/sub duos who are consciously exploring power exchange dynamics and wish to deepen their exploration. We welcome all experience levels, whether you’re just dipping your toes into the world of kink for the first time, or you’ve been exploring for a while, this weekend is designed to help you connect, communicate, explore and play in a fully immersive environment without the outside noise of every day life. 

  


**What to expect**

  


**Saturday**

  


We will kick off the weekend on Saturday morning with an opening cacao ceremony - our approach to kink is a conscious one, and this will allow us to set the scene and expectations for what will be an immersive weekend. 

  


We’ll then dive into understanding what *authentic* Dominance and submission looks like to you - not what you think it *should be*, not what you see in the movies or porn, but what *feels good* and *real* for you. This is also the time to explore what your biggest challenges are, where there might be any lingering resistance, and how to feel confident in communicating your desires to each other so you can build something that sets your souls on fire!

  


Next, we lay the foundations for the fun part - building your ultimate kinky scene! Whether you already have exciting playtime, or you’re stuck for inspiration, we’ll show you how to think outside the box when it comes to planning spicy scenes for play, and then guide you to create your own! 

  


Once you’re feeling warmed up, we’ll dive into some practical skills sessions, exploring Impact and Sensation Play. Whatever sensations you enjoy, this session is about understanding how to play with pain and pleasure in an erotic way that feels delicious for both of you. Watch a detailed live demo with Master Carlos and get hands-on guidance with a variety of tools that will invite you to get out of your head and into your body and really surrender. 

  


Saturday night you’ll be welcomed back to the Dungeon for our evening dungeon party where you can mix and mingle with other community members. Have a drink and a chat, and have the freedom to explore the dungeon further and practice what you’ve learnt that day. This evening event is a social and kink play only, it is not a sex party. 

  


**Sunday**

  


On Sunday, we dive into even more workshops to continue to build upon your dynamic, starting with creating rules, rituals and structure that are most suited to your style of Dominance and submission. Whether you see your dynamic as something you do in the bedroom only, or you’re looking to live it 24/7, this workshop will help you map out structure that feels realistic to your lifestyle and builds consistency. 

We’ll then give you some extra practical skills as our resident rope facilitator Talulah Teal will show you how you can use rope bondage to enhance your D/s scenes. You’ll be shown how to tie safely and in a way that explores rope as a sensation tool as much as a restraint tool. 

  


Adding this skill to your repertoire will give you a variety of different options to explore when it comes to building exciting BDSM Scenes. You’ll have some free time to explore these new skills and layer in everything else you’ve learnt too. 

  


As the weekend begins to draw to a close, we’ll start to wind down with an Aftercare workshop and session with our resident facilitator Alice Nan - we’ll explore what aftercare looks like and means to you, so you can continue to build your dynamic in a safe and nourishing way. 

  


We’ll end with a closing circle and Q&A to set you up for success when you go home. 

  


This weekend is limited to a maximum of 10 couples to ensure you get dedicated time and support.

  


**Full weekend itinerary (STC)**

  


**Saturday**

  


10-10.30: Opening Cacao circle 

  


10.30am-11.45pm: Embodying authentic Dominance & Submission

  


12pm-1.30: BDSM Scene Building

  


1.30pm-3pm: Break for lunch/free time 

 

3-4.30pm: Impact and Sensation Play 

  


4.30-7.30: Break for dinner and change for party

  


8pm-12.30am - SITC Dungeon Party/Social 

  


**Sunday**

  


11-11.30: Tea, coffee and party debrief (optional)

  


11.30am - 12.45pm: Creating Rules, Rituals and Structure for your dynamic 

  


1pm-2.30pm: An Introduction to Rope with Talulah Teal (Part 1)

  


2.30pm-3.15pm: Break for lunch/Free time 

  


3.15-4pm: An Introduction to Rope Scenes for D/s Dynamics with Talulah Teal (Part 2)

  


4pm-5pmThe Ritual of Aftercare with Alice Nan 

  


5pm-6pm: Q&A and Closing Circle 

  


Sub in the City  - Deepen Your Dynamic 

Ever feel like you don’t have the time to properly get into your Dom/sub dynamic? Perhaps you keep talking about starting but never get around to it? Does it...

Deepen Your Dynamic 

Integrative Kink Coaching is suitable for individuals and couples, and can explore any specific kinky goals you may wish to work towards, such as enhancing your Dom/sub relationship or learning new skills, or it could be the first step in exploring and discovering your desires with someone to support you in understanding what to do with them.

Working with our kinks can be incredibly healing. When we start to explore our kinks and assess our attitudes, values and beliefs around our kinks, it can open up the door to our shadow self, allowing us to get curious about all of the parts of ourselves that may need a little love and attention. 

I am a big believer that connecting with our sexual self can improve all areas of our lives, and through the exploration of kink, we can look at many other aspects of our shadow self, including limiting beliefs, the inner child, confidence, shame, attachment, trauma, and much more to fully step into our most authentic selves. 

Reasons you may wish to invest in Integrative Kink Therapy & Coaching:

**Work on your D/s dynamic with a partner**

**Relationship issues, conflicts or mismatch of desire**

**Learning how to create, maintain and enjoy a fulfilling kinky lifestyle**

**Kinky dating support** 

**Learning about kink and discovering what you’re into** 

**Working through limiting beliefs, blockages or trauma that may be hindering your kink experiences**

**Learn a specific skill**

**Deepen your understanding of your sexual self** 

**Create more intimacy and connection in your relationships**

All sessions are held online on Zoom and are 60 minutes long for individual sessions and 90 minutes for couples sessions. 

A 90-minute personalised online coaching session for couples looking to dive deeper into their kinky desires

90 Minute Couples Kink Coaching Session with Sarah

Do you want to learn a new kinky skill, or get some support or guidance on how to take things to the next level? Then a private skills session is perfect for you.

Sessions are designed for individuals, couples or small groups, who wish to have personalised support and guidance on how to implement new practical skills into their kinky lifestyle, with Kinky Coach Sarah and Pro Dom, Master Carlos. This could include but is not limited to things such as:

- **Impact Play Skills**
- **Sensory Play Skills**
- **Temperature Play Skills**
- **Dominance & Submission**
- **Scene creation**
- **Creating your kinky lifestyle**
- **Rules & Rituals**
- **Discipline & Punishment**
- **Dirty talk**
- **Aftercare**
- **& more**

Sessions are tailored to your individual needs and desires. Please note these coaching sessions are educational and exploratory in nature and are not an adult sexual service.

All sessions are held in Bournemouth in the fully-equipped Sub in the City BDSM Studio space (Bournemouth, BH1). Full address provided upon booking.

Sub in the City  - Private workshop/coaching in Dungeon 

Do you want to learn a new kinky skill, or get some support or guidance on how to take things to the next level? Then a private skills session is perfect for...